DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is the pasta spoon used widely in Italy? If not provided one at a restaurant or at someone’s home, should one request it? Or does the fact that a spoon has not been supplied ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My spouse and I frequently host meals for 10 to 20 guests, both personally and professionally. We have a debate over whether to put out spoons for meals when we are not serving soup ...

Dear Miss Manners: I inherited a beautiful set of sterling flatware, made in 1908, that had belonged to my grandparents. There are 12 spoons of which I can’t figure out the use: They are the size of ...

Dear Miss Manners: I was raised with the understanding that a spoon was to be used only with ice cream (unless it comes with cake) or soup (and a few other exceptions). Lately, I notice at many family ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was raised with the understanding that a spoon was to be used only with ice cream (unless it comes with cake) or soup (and a few other exceptions). Lately, I notice at many family ...

Dear Miss Manners: What spoon do you eat with, a teaspoon or “soup” spoon? I have relatives who are doubtful, and I get teased all the time about this. Gentle Reader: Please do not take it as adding ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Should pie a la mode be served on a plate with a fork, or in a bowl with a spoon? I am always frustrated when I am served a dessert topped with a scoop of ice cream on a flat plate ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it proper to leave a spoon in a cup or glass while drinking coffee, tea or iced tea? GENTLE READER: No. Watching the spoon attempting to bang on the drinker’s nose is unnerving, ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Where are those elusive “dessert spoons” that you mention? I don’t find them; the department store can’t find them. Are they hiding in my silver chest in the soup-spoon section? Are ...